You check in
One tap on “All good” — your trusted contact gets the all-clear, and never the details.
What you had left there is deleted with it.
Safety
Who sees what, and when.
Told through one example evening: a dinner night at 18:30 at the place of someone from your group you haven't met yet. Who gets to see what about you — and from when? And what happens when someone crosses the line?
Hide from contacts Right at sign-up
No unwanted outing.
A colleague, your brother-in-law, the neighbour downstairs: people who know you should not stumble across you on lingr. You pick them from your address book, and you don't see each other — not under People, not in groups, at meetups or events and not on the Board.
You can do this right at sign-up, straight after confirming your phone number — before anyone can see you at all. Later you can add to the list any time in the Security-Hub.
And strangers can't find you anyway: you can only be found through something you share — a group, a meetup, an event. You are findable by everyone only if you choose so.
Nobody finds out. We don't notify anyone, and the names from your address book stay on your iPhone.
What happens then
- A connection between you is gone. As with blocking, whatever existed between you disappears — requests, your connection, shared access.
- Your chats stay, but hidden. Neither of you can message the other any more.
- At least 30 days on the list. That way nobody can use the list to test whether someone is on lingr.
- Take someone off again and you see each other again — your chats too. What was deleted does not come back.
It works as long as the person uses a number on lingr that is in your address book. This covers mobile numbers from Germany, Austria and Switzerland.
Before the dinner night
You look at whose place you're going to.
You've asked to join the dinner night. Where exactly it takes place you only see once the host accepts you — until then only the area. Time enough to look at his profile: what do you have in common, and who vouches for him?
Because one question stands in the way: is this the person in the photos? A photo proves nothing. People who vouch for a profile do — and only people who are themselves connected to that person.
What the authenticity status is
- A percentage on the profile, set not by the person themselves but by their connections.
- Every vouch counts 10 per cent, ten of them make 100 per cent.
- Only people connected to that person can vouch.
- Every vouch can be taken back at any time — so the value can fall as well.
- Nobody can raise their own value.
In your own security hub you tap the value and see who is behind it — no number without a source.
Profile photos are AI-generated
Just before you leave Optional
If you want, you set up a Safe-Meet beforehand.
Before the dinner night you leave a few details: where you are, who with, a note — and by when you will check in. You do not have to tell anyone anything about your private life for it.
You pick a trusted contact from your connections for it. They have to have accepted that role beforehand.
It is not a step the app asks of you: without a Safe-Meet everything works exactly the same, and apart from the trusted contact you pick, nobody learns about it. You set one up when you want one — for this one evening, and not for the others.
What you decide
- Where you are, who with, and a note if you want to leave one.
- By when you will check in. On this evening, for example: by 23:00.
- Who knows about it. At most three people can be a trusted contact — the role is meant to mean something.
15 minutes12 hours
Every deadline you can set lies in between. No shorter, and no longer. Who with and the note can be left out — only the deadline has to be set.
Profile photos are AI-generated
At the dinner night
You are there. It is running.
Until the deadline your trusted contact only sees that a Safe-Meet is running. Not where, not who with.
This is not a setting anyone could forget or flip: as long as you can check in, nobody gets to see the details — not even the trusted contact you picked.
What they see right now
- That a Safe-Meet is running
- When you plan to check in
- That you picked them for it
Nothing more. Place, person and note stay sealed while the deadline is running.
Profile photos are AI-generated
After the dinner night
The deadline runs out.
Now there are two possibilities. Which one happens depends on one thing only: whether you check in.
You do not check in
Then the details go to your trusted contact by themselves — with a notification that cannot be silenced.
- The place and the map for it
- Who you met
- Your note, if you left one
After 48 hours the details expire on their side too.
Why these features exist
“Meeting people you don't know yet doesn't always happen in a café — a dinner night or a game night quickly ends up at someone's home. That is why it gets features of its own here.
Sometimes it is a town where you are not out. Whoever goes there mostly goes alone and tells nobody where. That is exactly what both are built for — the authenticity status for the question before, Safe-Meet for the time you are there.”
Rules and moderation
And when someone does not stick to them.
Hiding from contacts, the authenticity status and Safe-Meet decide who sees what of you. That leaves the question of what happens when someone crosses the line — in a chat, on a profile, in a group or at a meetup.
There is an answer to that, and it is in the app as well: in the Security-Hub under “Rules & Safety”.
Profile photos are AI-generated
Where the line is
- 18 and over. No profile, no photo, no chat with minors
- No harassment, no hate — not within the community either
- Out nobody: no screenshots, no passing on profiles or messages
- No other people's faces, no fake profiles
- No nude photos — not on your profile, not in albums, not on the Board. And nothing explicit unasked in a chat
- No trading: no advertising, no paid meetings, no drugs
What follows from that
- Photos for your profile, albums and the Board are checked for nudity by your iPhone itself — no image leaves the device for it
- No exclusion on profiles: lingr doesn't let through sentences that shut people out because of looks, background, age or how they come across
- You can report profiles, chats, groups, meetups, events and posts on the Board: six reasons, free text with it, and for people, blocking in the same step if you want
- Blocking takes effect at once and both ways — connections gone, access revoked, no more messages, not at events either. You'll find everyone you blocked in the Security-Hub, and you can unblock them there
- A human looks at every report. After that: remove the content, issue a warning or suspend the profile
- Whoever reports stays anonymous towards the reported person
- Anyone who has not finished setting up their profile shows up nowhere — no empty profiles in the overview
The moment this is about
Someone knows by when you will check in. More only if you do not.
For the evenings when you want that. Nobody demands a Safe-Meet — you switch it on when you need it.